A few minutes after midnight 1/1/15, I stopped all contact on social media for a week. No FB, no Twitter, no Pinterest no blogging, no nothing. The only communications I had with anyone were the good ol’ fashioned ways; face to face and by phone. Is texting social media? I guess that’s a matter of perspective, but I specifically mean online social media. Here’s what happened:
1.The first day, I was extremely tempted to get on FB, and Twitter, but after a few hours, I was good.
2.The second day, I guess I forgot about social media period, because it wasn’t even on my radar to get on. I didn’t think about it until a friend of mine texted me asking how was my break going.
3.I got a lot of things done that week, including throwing away a lot of unnecessary things and preparing to move to another state.
4.My mind was super clear to think, and I was typing like 5000 words a day. I was also able to come up with a marketing plan for my books.
5.I was less stressed. I’m involved in a lot of political talk, especially on FB, and I get heated! There was none of that during the week, and I liked it. I liked not being upset. I don’t mind debating about politics in real life, but on social media, I’d have several debates going on at the same time and that was a lot of energy, a lot of negative energy, that I was dealing with unnecessarily. Plus trying to keep up with all of my social media was stressful, which I didn’t realize until I stopped. My stress level may have been the biggest difference, and the most positive change.
6.I realized how many hours of my life were wasted on social media. Hours at a time I’d spend being unproductive. It’s ok to be unproductive sometimes. But at least during those times you should be resting, or enjoying yourself. I was doing neither. I was just social media. I was just on it, to be on it. I took that extra time and started brushing up on my German, Spanish and started learning Italian.
7.Sans social media, I can write well over 5000 words a day.
I’ve also given myself more direction with this blog. I initially intended to write a lot more about sex, and relationships, but with all the civil unrest in my country, I felt guilty writing about anything else other than those topics. They are topics that are true to my heart. Topics that scare the shit out of me as I consider bringing children into this world. They are heartbreaking, painful, and deserve my attention, especially, because at any point, it could be me or mines. I am a black woman in this country. My family was brought here for slave labor. The people before me had to survive horrible circumstances, up to and including my grandparents who survived southern racism in the 20s, 30s, and 40s. Black people couldn’t vote for a portion of my parent’s lives. I am literally one generation away from blacks not being able to vote. So, I have a need to express my feelings about all that’s happening.
However, those are not the only topics of interest to me. I don’t like being upset all of the time. It doesn’t feel good, and I need a reprieve. I don’t want to die from any stress related diseases. The way to tame that prospect is to stop stressing. I’m a multi-faceted, dynamic human being. We all are, no matter how much some of us may try to fight it. I will not stop blogging about civil issues, but I will focus on other social issues. Sex is definitely a social issue. It’s such an ambiguous topic, so full of good and evil. Not to mention, It’s necessity to our race – the human race.
So, I’ll be writing more about other topics, and hopefully folks will continue to read and enjoy them.
I went on FB for the first time today. Most of the people on my timeline are very politically and socially aware, so there’s post after post after post about all of the things that are wrong, from the police state, to the environment, to congress, to women’s rights, etcetera. Aside from saying happy birthday, and poking a few people, I won’t be doing much on FB today. My twitter feed is full of a different set of folks, so it’s a lot happier there, but it’s still too much to go through. Pinterest is Pinterest; food, fashion, books – it’s a hopeful place. I have some other social media outlets, but those are the three I frequent the most. And of course, this is the first blog I’ve written in a week. Though, that’s not necessarily unusual.
I’m not here to judge anyone else’s SM use. We all have our vices. If you feel you need a break, take one. Don’t worry about your friends. Do it for you. The real ones will understand and contact you in real life. I will definitely still use social media, but I won’t drown in it like I’ve done in the past.
I actually do feel like I’ve been through some kind of cleansing. I didn’t realize how much time I was spending just staring at my computer, not living, not even learning. Distancing myself from the many things I aim to accomplish.
Thanks for reading!